Birds of a feather flock together, but research shows that when it comes to approaching money, opposites attract. Spenders tend to pair up with savers, and vice versa. It’s no wonder, then, that money is one of the top sources of relationship conflict. Having different financial mindsets doesn’t have to be an issue. You simply need to communicate in order to play to the other person’s strengths. Next time you’re gazing at each other over candlelight (and maybe after a glass or two of wine), see what happens when you introduce a little money talk.
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As you become closer with your significant other, conversations about money should become a normal part of getting to know each other. This is about building trust and intimacy — not giving each other the third degree.
In broaching these topics, it’s important to understand that one person isn’t “right” while the other one is “wrong.” However, there are some red flags to indicate you and your main squeeze might be in dangerous fiscal territory.
Money is tied to our most basic sense of security, and any breach of financial trust can permanently damage the relationship. Better to be honest and deal with a conflict than to maintain secrets. Intimacy takes hard work, and for many couples, the money part of intimacy is the hardest. But if you nail that, then you two are — excuse the pun — money.